What does it actually mean to transform your Shadows? How do you do it?
Begin with a Gene Key. The best at the beginning is to take your Life’s Work. Read it, think about it. Look for the Shadow in the world. See it at work in the world. Then apply it to your inner life. How does it show up? What is your personal response to it? How does it make you feel? You needn’t make yourself tense. Just observe. Then just hold the energy of that Shadow and contemplate it. The next time you feel uncomfortable – maybe physically, maybe emotionally, maybe mentally, think how that Shadow might be responsible. Apply your intellect to the problem. Apply your imagination. Explore it inside you. Trust your intuition. Spend as long as you need on this process until your life shows you how the Shadow works inside you.
The process may be quick for some people. For others it may take weeks or even months. Be patient. The longer you have to wait, the greater the insight will be. Once you identify with the Shadow, then you begin phase 1 of transforming it.
The 3 Phases of Transformation
Phase 1 – Allowing
Allowing is when you become aware of a Shadow inside you. You may not like it. You may wish it was gone. You don’t have to like it or accept it yet. You just have to allow it. Allowing is very generous. You simply keep seeing it – however uncomfortable your behaviour makes you feel.
Phase 2 – Accepting
Accepting is deeper than allowing. Once allowing has gone on for some time, it begins to transform into accepting. Accepting a Shadow is powerful. It means that your awareness can catch yourself in the act, and even though you may not be able to stop yourself, your awareness surrounds the Shadow pattern.
Phase 3 – Embracing
Embracing is complete transformation. When you have embraced a Shadow, or a particular manifestation of a Shadow, then it no longer has a hold over you. You have transcended the frequency of its orbit. You will taste freedom and know that this particular pattern is leaving or has left your life for good. This is the dismantling of the victim pattern at a physical level in your DNA. At Phase 3 you may also become aware that Grace has been at work in order for you to have been able to transcend this Shadow.
All 3 of the above phases have their own rhythm and timing in our lives. There are no rules. Sometimes the progress seems quite slow and gradual. At other times, and with other patterns, you can move from Phase 1 to 3 with astonishing rapidity.
The most important qualities that help us in transcending our Shadow states are patience, self compassion and gentleness. This does not have to be a tense and difficult process. When you approach this work with softness, it will open up inside you like a flower. Because our society and upbringing tends to train us to become tense when faced with difficulties, these 3 precious qualities alone can change your life.
-Richard Rudd – GeneKeys.com